The Confidence Balance
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Displaying confidence seems to be an unwritten rule for getting ahead within large organizations. Those we see as displaying a outgoing personality, head held high, and they know how to say all the right things at the right time. But, is this true?
I believe that high-achieving professionals can achieve their executive ambitions by appropriately building and applying their confidence.
Consider two perspectives: first from Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, Professor of business psychology at the University College London, and author of the book Confidence, and second from my experience coaching high achieving professionals.
Professor Tomas describes two extremes of self-evaluation. On one end is overconfidence. On the other end is humility, and possibly even insecurity.
What I found particularly interesting in the book is the reasons why we find confident people to be so compelling. First, they display desirable features of being charismatic, extroverted, and socially skilled; and second is the tendency of others to equate confidence with competence.
04:15 To a certain degree, is being over-confident a dangerous place to find yourself?
Being over-confident can lead to toxic effects.
Or on the other end of the confidence spectrum and that is associated with humility.
By being humble, an individual is more inclined to be aware of discrepancy between the person they want to be and where they are.
In my many years of coaching High Achievers, I’ve observed three general scenarios that tend to undermine the confidence of my clients.
- How decision points are framed
- Negative self-talk
- Narcissism and entitlement characterize professionals within the Millennials and the Generation Y populations, as revealed by research when compared to other generations.
08:53 What are the possibilities for creating a balanced level of confidence that supports you in advancing your career and achieving your executive ambitions?
- Build Your Competence
- Build on Your Own Strengths
- Create a Plan (Annual, Monthly, Weekly, and Daily)
By taking these steps you will be building your confidence and your motivation!
Motivation and self-confidence are connected. When you have more of one, you will discover that you will gain more of the other.
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Coach Mo Knows (Tip, Coaching Question and bit of Inspiration)
Tips:
- Take the How Confident Are You? Quiz at https://www.mindtools.com/
- Grab the audiobook/book, Confidence: How Much You Really Need and How to Get It by Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic: https://amzn.to/2ZZmbN8
- Discover Your Strengths: A Strengths coaching package: https://www.moniquebetty.com/strengths
Coaching Question:
Which will produce most valuable results for you right now, strengthening your inner-confidence (how you see yourself) or your external confidence (how others see you?) Be sure to follow my new Instagram account, Tuesdays with Coach Mo and let me know how you respond to this question?
Inspiration: ‘I’m young as morning, and fresh as dew. Everybody loves me and so do you!’ ~ Maya Angelou
